내 머리 속의 지우개, REMEMBER

rbd tu amor



There are 10 things you ought to know about love.


1.Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not love.


2.Love is not manipulative. It should not be used to get others to do what you want i.e " You would do it of you loved me "

3.Love is an intense felling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms i.e romantic, friendly, familial but it is always about caring.

4.Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of yours this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.

5.If somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to " prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love someone you don't ask the person to sacrifice a part of themselves for another person in the name of that love.

6. The true measure of love of romantic love is commitment and trust not lust for love.


7.It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person given at a time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at a same time? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this situation. Be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about feelings and confusion.

8. SEX IS NOT LOVE AND LOVE IS NOT SEX. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory.

9.Romantic love can always fade away like a morning mist.


10.Love should make you feel happy,secure and appreciated. Children knows more about the purity of love than adults.. we always tend to forget...

So dear lou po, i always love you.

Well before even stepping a bolder step AS ABOVE, ask yourself i.e are you committed in it.

There are advice given by the people to consider yourself. Don't GO to relationship when you know you can't. By forcing it or wanting it resulting from pressure of friends will not help.

There are 8 simple rules that i have always want to tell you all when dating for relationship>>>
(p/s-is only general rule, don't come to me and say look is this person who told me to do it. I don't want to get killed you know.) kekeke

Rule#1 : Don't date if you're not ready.

Hold off till you're emotionally mature and financially able to enter into a committed relationship and discern marriage. When you know you have a lot of things to take care in your life then don't do it. Not taking care of your own life properly shows a lack of responsibility in yourself and even to your partner also.

Rule#2 : Don't date for experience
Rule#3 : Prepare yourself

Do not become preoccupied looking for a life partner. Singleness is not a curse!!! Learn to love generously and unselfishly towards people.

Rule#4 : Build friendship first

Don't rush. Don't date someone on the rebound. Take a good look at why he/she broke up from a previous relationships. If the person is a two-timer or jumped from one relationship to another because " I don't feel anything anymore", you are asking yourself a trouble. Many want to play the romanticized role of the hero who rehabilitates the guy or girl but they end up getting hurt in the end.

Friendship take time and are built in common values and interests. Expression of feeling should remain on the level of kindness and consideration i.e rather saying I LOVE YOU first time, use I LIKE YOU instead.

Rule#5 : Seek Advice from the novice
Rule#6 : Avoid over dating

Generally 3 or 4 meetings in a week and a phone call every other day is fine but don't do it too excessive i.e 10 times call a day
Dropping half your life so you can be with a person every night of the week is a sign of co-dependency. Balance your life or the relationship will get smothering and stale.


Rule#7 : Draw physical parameter

Always respect yourself and set high standards.
Don't ever submit to something that you're not comfortable with and even you are not. If he pressures you, he doesn't respect you; he's not interested in you but your body.

There's an old saying that men trade sex for love. Once the guys hit the jackpot, be ready to become yesterday chewing gum. This is already like a normal course for people like us.
We are like a cuisine to some people who are interested in lust especially young gays who are the victims. Its true.

Rule#8 : Aim for a 2-year courtship

Don't rush marriage because of the biological clock or because the baby is on the way( if it is applicable to you).
Sociologist find that divorce rates are the lowest for those who marry for the first time at the age of 28 or later. Smart people don't assume that they are a special case to the general rule.

Well i think the above rule does not really applicable to us ( if you are straight then is 'k). Aren't they? Kekeke.. change a bit. If you guys want to move in together then. hahahaa...

Starting of with a relationship especially in a gay cycle is so hard. You always ponder with the existence of the held hold long relationship. As solid as a rock. You wanted to built a strong foundation for it to stand. Then filled it up with other elements to make it stronger. You don't want it to collapse.

Dear, Lou Po i want you to know that i love you. I want you to know i want it to last long. Not 2 year nor 3 year. Long term one. I want to grew financially, prospectively in everything so i could take care of you well.

Even though i was raised with a silver spoon in the mouth, but not all the time. My family history was not a rich one. It was just when i was born. So i took care everything thinking about future. I wanted you to know my character more. I wanted to know you more.

Engraved by,
Lou gong, david.

On the 3rd day of the Chinese New Year, i went to my lou po house at morning for an outing together. Well is still early and seeing the tiredness in his face, we decided to hit the bed and sleep till no clue at all. We were playing on the bed when sleeping together. hahaha

I am a very ticklish person. Im phobia of that. Don't tickle me. You might not know that a slight tickle from anyone you might get some great momentum from me. That's right. A big one. We start sleeping at near 10 am and we were hugging to each other to sleep. Then help lou po to massage his body as he was complaining about backache few days ago.
Lou po did you enjoy my massage skill? I think you do after hearing the sound of relaxing you make. hehehe.. im pro in it. Used to massage for my parents.

Then we turn slightly.. ahem* (-,<) You know what i mean. We played a bit kissing. Then sleep till at 2pm. I woke up a bit early. Seeing him sleeping makes me feel so warm inside. So cute. He snore like a pig ^^ I didn't even snore. I sleep like a baby while he sleep like a piggy^^ With the smell on us we took the bath and headed for a brunch at Mines. We went to get movie ticket and went for scouting on foods. We decided to a Pizza San Francisco. Now introducing you to my lou po eating mussels.

I should be doing my studies, revision, reports of meetings, claimant reports and etc. All of them due next week and i did manage finish like nearly of what i should be doing while the rest is still pending. Well i already starting to miss my dear lou po zhai already. Yesterday only we meet and i already longing for the hug of comfort.

Well, i wish i can spend my holidays with my lou po. Really missing him. K' enough with the missing. I still remembered my lou po say this.

Lou po: You said it so many times until it stuck in my head already.

Lou po: Sei lou! Don't miss me. I keep sneezing.

On the new year eve, is usuall with reunion and all about food.What i eat? Steamboat. I don't eat much because been thinking what is my dear doing. Apparently when you love someone, you will be thinking about the person day and night.

What is he doing right now? Where is he now? Have he eaten? Is he driving safely and slowly?

When you call the person, he didn't pick up, then thousand of question flying across.
Why is he not picking up? Where is he? Is he in accident? Is he safe?

Maybe i should start cultivating patience in virtue or even meditating to calm myself down.
I should start to learn from this solid rock.



At the second day of new year, i went to visit a temple to look at scenery. I took a few pictures of view there. I wish my dear was with me.